Live event July 19: Talking about sex beyond erections

This Saturday July 19 is an opportunity to participate in a live, interactive conversation about sex with erectile differences. [Editor’s note: See below for some notes on the meeting outcomes.] The scope includes, but is not limited to those who have been diagnosed with prostate cancer. Our conversation will be built around my 2025 book Beyond Erections and include exploration of

• Expanding and redefining orgasm: full body orgasms, multiple orgasms, infinite varieties of orgasm beyond erections.
• New and creative ways of being sexy with all parts of our bodies including soft penises.
• The mindset and communication that enables us to discover a whole new way of enjoying sex beyond erections.

The conversation will be led and hosted by sexuality expert Erica Leroye and myself. It will not be recorded in any way and respectful group norms will be established at the outset and adhered to throughout. More about Erica and the event at the link below. Pre-booking for the Zoom call is essential and open to people of any gender and sexual orientation.

Live conversation – book now

To be part of the conversation, all you need to do is to get tickets, and then save the date and be present:

Saturday July 19 at 10 am Pacific time | 1 pm Eastern time | 6 pm in the UK | 7 pm CET and CAT.

Tickets are free, or pay what you can afford as a donation to Erica’s amazing It Doesn’t Have To Be Hard platform and community.

To read the book, you can select between two different eBook options as well as buying the paperback online or in select bookstores worldwide. All book buying options here.

How the live global conversation went

Postscript after the event

Just over 25 participants with all kinds of bodies and sexual orientations came to the event and enjoyed open and constructive dialogue. Do let me know if you would like more opportunities like this. The core topic was how to enjoy sex beyond erections, and I am grateful to Erica Leroye for hosting the event and featuring my book – as well as all the people who came along to take part. The conversation was kept private and not recorded to enable open discussion of these sensitive issues.

Public discourse about penises is usually relentlessly focused on hardness, but real penises are soft most of their lives. I think that a mix of shame and Viagra marketing are misdirecting people. For a variety of reasons some penises stay soft even in sexual situations – for example due to diabetes, aging, prostate cancer treatment, gender reassignment and many more.

Something new and exciting is gathering momentum in these conversations. On July 19th, ordinary people talked openly for two hours about sex beyond erections. The tone was realistic – and hopeful. I look forward to more discussing the undiscussable and the new possibilities that will open up.